A Word From a Survivor

They just move on to the next victim (or survivor).

There are women and men who have survived unhealthy, abusive, tumultuous relationships. Some are victims (resting, at peace), and some are still living with or are in a toxic relationship with their abuser. These relationships cause stress, anxiety, pain, bitterness, low self-esteem, insecurity, and yes, even guilt. Sometimes you don't realize you have been affected by these emotions and symptoms until you have removed yourself from that situation; and the effects are long-lasting. Do not entertain the misconception or illusion that you will be able to fix the person or change them. Yes, I've tried that. Our faithful mothers of "Old-Time Religion" would say, "Just wait on the Lord to fix it." I truly believe in Power that is greater than I. However, after 14 long years, with strength and will that comes from Higher Power, I came to a decision that I believed was right for me. It was my personal choice and decision. I convinced myself that if Creator (the Universe) was planning to "fix" it, "HE" would've done so by now. And I refused to accept that "God" wanted me to stay there and continue suffering while waiting on "HIM" (the Lord) to fix it. I refused to believe the situation I was in was my purpose or should be my destiny. I began to realize that I had put myself in that situation and was allowing myself to remain there. I had to have a secret plan to safely remove myself from that toxic and potentially deadly situation. That choice to cut off that unhealthy/toxic relationship--the preservation of your physical, mental, and spiritual well being--is difficult and scary, but necessary. The toxic person who abuses you doesn't love you. They have a need to have power and control over someone. When you're gone, they just move on to the next victim (or survivor).